It might only be February 14, Valentine’s Day to be exact, but I feel like I’ve learned more in the past month and a half than I did in the entire 366 days of 2016. I’ve not gone in search of these lessons in the slightest, they just seem to have landed smack bang in front of me. I think that’s the beauty of a lesson. It becomes all the more valuable because you didn’t expect to learn it.
Lesson No. 1
Stop trying too hard to look perfect. Social media and magazines are to blame here! I spent 90% of the year caking on makeup, destroying my skin and feeling conscious of looking fake. For what? Who actually cares if I wear makeup or not? It’s not like I spend every day in the limelight like these poor Daily Mail victims. I love makeup, why else would I have spent a year of my life studying it, but it got to the point where I loathed applying it. When something you once loved becomes a chore, you know it’s time to make a change. I’m by no means makeup free now, far from it, but I’ve toned it way, way now. I opt for minimal eye makeup, less offensive eyebrows and a light powder foundation instead of the bottles of cement that lie within my makeup bag. I’ll save those for the days where I want to glam myself up a little, because I want to, not because I feel I have to. It’s pretty enlightening to finally feel like I don’t have to look like that YouTuber or Blogger, but instead to look like me.
Lesson No. 2
Lesson number two is the way I see my body, and the way I fuel my body. Yes, that joyful old chestnut! As you know back in September I began the Body Coach’s 90 Day Plan, and I felt on top of the world when I completed it. Since completing it, things have been a little different, which is a body of information that definitely warrants its own blog post. So, to keep things basic, let’s just say that I see my body, my diet, and my general lifestyle slightly differently now. I stopped living, and I became scarily unhappy to the point where every single day was a struggle. If I’m being completely honest, every day is still a struggle, just less of one. I’m not saying that the 90 Day Plan triggered this, it just helped fuel an already burning fire. Things were getting to a dangerous point for me, more so mentally than physically, and whilst I’m not out of the woods yet, I have been lucky to realise all of this at a time where I’m able to make the right moves in order to undo the damage that’s been done. It’s time I took back what’s mine – my sanity. I’m sorry, but no amount of abs or skinny thighs are worth losing your mind over. I’ll cover this topic more in a future post, once I’m fully back in the right frame of mind.
Lesson No. 3
YOLO, right? No seriously, it’s true, and I’m that person who has gone around saying this cringe-worthy phrase in reference to my food choices as opposed to the life decisions that actually matter. I recently received an email which contained the same message that I’ve heard before. It said something along the lines of making the most of your money, freedom and energy, because one day you won’t be able to, and you don’t want to regret a thing. I don’t know why but this particular email stood out, and it has stuck with me ever since it dropped into my inbox. I used to be the kind of person who let my bank balance get down to a matter of pence. I guess it was part of growing up, but I’ll tell you one thing, I do not miss that empty feeling. This bad habit changed when I bought my first ever home with the love of my life. Yes, I was still left with pennies come payday, but this was because for the first time ever, I had savings. Later this month Darryl and I have been in our home for one whole year. Time flies! I look back with pride at how we worked to get ourselves into the position we’re in. Last year we were careful as we adjusted to adulthood, but this year is a little different. I could feel us slipping into the lifestyle where you live, but you don’t actually live. We took caution one step too far and began saying no to everything that would dent our finances, be it a big or small dent. 2017 is the year we begin to really live, the year where we do the things that make us happy, because we deserve to.
Happy Valentine’s Day, beautiful people!
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