I’ve come to realise in recent years that it’s true what they say – you simply cannot judge a book by its cover. No matter what you might assume is the situation for some people, you can bet every penny you own that there are a whole series of undiscovered issues, worries and concerns that they’re hiding away under lock and key.
Whilst I used to keep many of my concerns private, from time to time I would to fall into the ‘over-sharer’ category and shout about my problems all over social media. Looking back at my Timehop, I’m embarrassed. Posting things along the lines of “Could this day get any worse?” were a regular occurrence, and I see now that it was incredibly naive of me. At the young age of sixteen I admittedly didn’t have a care in the world when it came to using social media, now – I more aware than ever.
I deleted my personal Twitter at the beginning of the year, allowing me to destroy all negative history. You never know who might see it or what the repercussions might be. Yes – I might share the odd status about having a bit of a bad day, or post about something not going to plan, but summing up how utterly tragic your life is – which is most likely an exaggeration – really isn’t necessary.
That aside, it’s also vital to shed negative energy in a healthy form – which is why a little while ago I began ‘taking time out’. Whilst I don’t have a stressful job, I still work full time alongside running this blog – on top of that I too have to deal with my own set of pressing issues that life throws at me. People have said to me in the past: “why are you relaxing? What have you got to be stressed about?”. This is insane to me. Like I said, you never know what’s going on behind closed doors – so people ought to consider that before they speak.
Knowing how to deal with an difficult issue, or several come to that, wasn’t something I was familiar with, though over the years I’ve discovered a few methods that help me make the best of a bad situation – so I thought I’d share them with you:
Find your peace of mind
Find your happy place, wherever or whatever it is, and spend some time there. For some, it’s as local as their own bedroom, for others – it’s a little further afield. Whilst I have many happy places dotted across the globe, the most accessible place for me is either a coffee shop or heading out into the fresh air. Or combine the two, as I did today. Having had a rather stressful couple of days, I decided to head out to Starbucks with Darryl to grab my favourite drink – and sipped away as we walked around the beautiful countryside within Buckinghamshire. Doing this gave me time to think, reflect – and to basically chill the hell out for an hour or so.
Don’t fix what’s not broken
Can you fix it? Will it be worth your while if you do fix it? Sometimes yes, though sometimes no. Analyse the situation and make sure you’re choosing the best solution. In the past, I’ve sometimes learnt the hard way that its best to keep quiet – no matter how much you want to voice your opinion.
Flip the situation
Depending on the issue, sometimes you can turn a negative situation into a positive one. As an example, yes – I once got ridiculed on social media once for a pathetic reason, but the positive? They took the time to notice my blog and what I’d achieved. Whether they valued the time they spent looking at my hard work or not, it doesn’t matter – because they paid attention to it regardless.
We all underestimate the reality of each other’s lives – so being sensitive towards others about what they might be going through at this moment in time is the least we can do as we each go about our day.